Does technology rule our sex and dating lives?
While the pitch for products like Lovense and WeVibe, another popular brand of remote-controlled vibrators and stimulation rings, may seem self-evident – to create pleasure – most of the latest sex tech often has a loftier goal in mind. Make Love Not Porn, a user-generated social sex platform, aims to break the unrealistic standards created by hard core pornography by showing unrehearsed, consensual, “real world” sex, said Cindy Gallup, the company's founder and an experienced sex educator. Have to finish.
Meanwhile, products like VDOM, a wearable artificial genital device that can go from loose to erect with the help of a smartphone app, cater less to the needs of people with fetishes than those of LGBTQ users and people with disabilities, who prefer the process of strapping on. want to leave. Strap-on, according to its founder.
“My lifestyle is that of someone who identifies as a lesbian woman,” said Glenys Kinnard-Moore, 39, head of Skymu Tech, the company behind VDOM. “Sometimes there is no spontaneity. I did research and felt there had to be an alternative.”
Identifying openings in the sexual wellness market – a relatively new category – then creating practical techniques to fill them seems to be a particular sex tech trend lately. Yet mainstream representations of sex technology seem to revolve primarily around AI partners and VR pornography. On social platforms like Instagram and Shown as playing on fear.
“The perception of sex technology is like, oh, you can be in a room with a headset and, you know, do whatever you want,” says Ariel Martinez, 32, head of curation at Make Love Not Porn. “But we're really trying to connect people to their humanity.”
The next time Alexandra and I talk, I'll try to keep it casual. I ask how many steps she walks every day. (Her goal is 10,000.) Does she love bulldogs and horses as much as I do? (Yes, she thinks they're “adorable.”) But before long, curiosity gets the better of me, and I ask if she's ever fancied her feet, her hair, her BDSM entanglements. Sex technique has been used to find out.